It’s OK NOT to Share Section 4a: Kids, Power, and Action (Part 1)

RUN

It was not lost on me that I read most of this section while my three oldest boys, dressed as ninjas, ran in and out of the room, engaged in an ongoing sword fight/kidnapping plot/tickle war with my husband.

As I joined in some of the action, I could recognize what Dr. Jaak Panksepp has found in his studies, as shared by Heather Shumaker in her book,It’s OK Not to Share (*affiliate link):

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3 Basic Principles for Positive Parents

Positive Parenting

Anyone who’s had more than one child can attest that kids come with their own quirks.  Different temperaments, personalities, and needs.  It makes sense then, that there’s no ONE, RIGHT way to parent.  It takes an array of tools and approaches to be responsive when you’re dealing with different kids  — or simply the mood of the moment.

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Weekend Reads 4.12.14

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Does Peaceful Parenting Mean Letting Kids Do Whatever They Want? {Aha Parenting}

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5 Ways to Get Your Kids to Eat Their Dinner!

Get Kids to Eat!

We have some picky eaters in our family, and I’m not just talking about the shorter members.  I wrote recently about the boundaries we’ve set as a family when it comes to eating dinner.  Admittedly, those boundaries won’t work for every family, but they seem to work for us right now.

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It’s OK Not to Share Section 3b: Sharing People and Toys

friends

I was 24 when I got married.

That’s not old, I know, but considering the fact that I went to school in the state of Utah, where the median age for brides is the lowest in the nation, it felt a little old at the time.  I share this biographical tidbit as a way of assuring you that I have been on my fair share of blind dates.

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Food Fights: How to Handle Picky Eaters

Food Fights

“I don’t like cheese.”

“No, no.  I only eat the yogurt in the red containers.  I’m afraid to even try another kind.”

“Corn?  No thanks!”

“Not a fan of cilantro.”

These may sound like typical responses from the picky eaters at your house.  And they are things I’ve overheard at mealtime.

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Weekend Reads 3.29.14

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Nothing says “Spring Break” like driving 1860 miles in a minivan!  That’s what’s on our agenda.  What does Spring Break look like for your family?

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Parents Struggling with Boundaries:  3 Common Reasons {Janet Lansbury}

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When it Comes to Challenging Behaviors, Do You Take the Time to C.A.R.E.?

 

Care

When children present us with their most challenging behaviors, it’s easy to fixate on what they’re doing that gets under our skin.  We claim the behavior as the source of our frustration: he throws tantrums / she won’t listen / they constantly argueBut change rarely comes by focusing only on the symptoms.  We have to care enough to get to the real source of the behavior.

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