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Give Me Five! Getting Your Preschoolers' Attention

September 14, 2009 by notjustcute Filed Under: Positive Guidance and Social Skills 13 Comments

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It is a common misconception that preschool children know what it means when you ask them to “listen”.  Grown ups constantly ask them to “listen” or “pay attention”, but a young child can’t comply with those requests until you explain what that will actually look like.  

I teach my little ones the “Give Me Five” signal.  When I need my very best listeners, I hold up my hand and say, “Give Me Five…Four..Three..Two..One” as I slowly count down with my fingers as well.  At “One” I put the single finger in front of my mouth for a quiet “shhh”.  The children usually follow along, shhh-ing as well, bringing us all to a quiet spot.  But listening is more than just being quiet, so I teach how  to listen using the FIVE.   The first time I use it, I tell them there are important parts to being a good listener, that they can remember as we count down.

5…Your eyes are looking.

4…Your body is still.

3…Your hands are to yourself.

2…Your ears are listening .

and 1…Shhhh. Your mouth is quiet.  We’re ready to listen!

(I’ve even made a big poster drawing of a hand and put pictures of eyes, bodies, etc. on each finger as a visual reminder.)

I’ll repeat this long version the first few times I use “Give Me Five”, often changing it up to reinforce those behaviors (5…Danny’s eyes are looking, 4…Oh, wow, Jill’s body is so still….), then I shorten to just counting, but pointing out children that are doing the specific behaviors once we finish counting, thanking them for being good listeners.

I don’t use this every time I want someone’s attention, I think they would tire of it.  But I use it frequently at the beginning, to teach listening skills, and then I use the “5-4-3-2-1 shhh” when I need to get everyone’s attention during a busy time (while they’re talking during snack, or a project for example).  I also use it as a quick reminder at times such as large group, using my hand as a signal and saying, “Who’s giving me five?  Oh wow!  Yen is such a great listener!”  Try this out with your little ones, and see if teaching them how to listen will help them to listen!

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  1. Juliann says

    September 14, 2009 at 7:40 pm

    I like the countdown idea. These are some good ideas to pass on to my teachers.

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    • notjustcute says

      September 14, 2009 at 11:11 pm

      Glad to hear it’s something you can use! Let me know how it goes!

      Reply
  2. Catherine McMahon says

    September 4, 2010 at 8:34 am

    Love this technique! Used it in my classroom this first week.

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    • notjustcute says

      September 4, 2010 at 11:53 am

      I’m so glad! Thank you for letting me know!

      Reply
  3. Emily says

    September 12, 2011 at 3:03 am

    Great cue – it really encourages whole body listening! I am putting together a listening resources book for parents and will be linking back here to this strategy, if that’s OK.

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    • notjustcute says

      September 12, 2011 at 10:26 am

      Absolutely! I appreciate the link!

      Reply
  4. nab says

    August 29, 2012 at 5:39 am

    this seems like a really good idea…..but will it work on a 1yr n 2 yr old??? please email me so i can write to you a few questions for some tips…im due my 3rd in 3 week and i feel like iv lost complete control of my kids….ive been tooo soft, now paying the price i feel. so would realllyyyy love some gud big help and guidance. thanks x

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  5. Amy El Kady says

    April 15, 2014 at 4:52 am

    I am so happy and thrilled I found this site today…I am currently working in a pre school and have a 4 year old daughter as well, with challenging behavior. I am always telling her she needs to listen to mom and dad… her reply is ” Why?” What do you say to that?
    Thank you for your helpful advice I will visit frequently and share often.
    Amy

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  6. kirsty says

    September 13, 2014 at 8:54 am

    I will definitely be trying this out on teaching practice! Thanks

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